"How
to Tell if She is Flirting with You"
For the most part, guys tend to rely on their
gut instincts or vibes they get and rarely give
much thought to what it is that is generating
these impressions.
The real question you should be asking is
Should I trust my gut instincts?
Some are more accurate and intuitive than others
but in general, we are not very good at picking
up on flirting signals.
In a recent
scientific test, 100 women were told to
flirt with 100 men (using body language).
Of the 100 men, How many would you think were
able to notice the flirting signals?
THREE! 97%
were oblivious.
I use this example
because it clearly tells us that we
are missing most of what is being communicated to us.
Unfortunately, it translates into many missed opportunities
and misunderstandings.
What's the right way?
There are 3 simple steps
that you must follow if you want
to dramatically improve your ability to detect if she is
flirting
with you.
1. Tune in to her Body
Language. Body Language signals
are the most reliable way of detecting a persons true
inner feelings.
2. Understand what
these signals mean. Interpreting
body language signals accurately is not something
we
are born with. It is an acquired skill.
3. Plan your response.
The biggest mistake a guy can make
is once they have detected she is interested, they push
the
envelope and try and go too far too fast. If you want
to
avoid embarrassment, rejection and the hit your
reputation
may take, you have to take it slow. No one wants to
have
there head handed to them. By applying the right techniques,
you can slowly escalate intimacy and avoid the above
mentioned pitfalls. It's not a race. Enjoy the getting there.
Keeping these 3 steps in
mind, here are 10 cues that she
is interested in you.
1.
She keeps looking over at
you attempting to make eye contact.
When you establish eye contact with her, she looks down.
2.
She smiles at you. Although
this may seem obvious, it's important
to know the difference between a polite smile and a sincere
more
intimate smile.
3.
She goes out of her way to
get you to notice her. For example, if
she was across the room when you first made eye contact with
her
and you notice she has moved in closer to you.
4.
Plays with her hair.
A Women's hair is a source of power and
confidence to them. If you see her twirling her finger
through it or
throwing it around.
5.
She initiates the conversation with you. Keep in mind
that many
other factors play a role here. How close she stands,
what she
says are key. Always look for other body
language signals
that confirm her actions.
6.
She laughs at your jokes. Humor can be a very powerful tool
in flirting. Having a lighthearted demeanor can
expedite intimacy.
7.
She asks if you like certain activities. This could be an
attempt
to establish some common ground and interests with the
intention
of establishing opportunities to see each other again.
8.
She pays you a compliment. If she compliments you on your
physique, look for other flirting signs that may accompany
the
compliment. This is a strong signal.
9.
She makes sexual comments.
Most times they will keep it
understated and tasteful, so you should do the same. A crass
slip-up is a sure-fire way to ruin the rapport.
10.
She touches you. Where she touches you is key, If she
touches your arm, that's less obvious. If
they progress to
your hand or knee, that's a much stronger sign.
Although these cues can be
revealing, never put all your
weight into one signal. Look for other signals in succession
to substantiate your perceptions. I recommend 4 positive
signals.
There is no substitute for
knowledge. Knowing how to
interpret body language flirting signals and how to
apply the
right techniques and responses to get the desired results
will
not only have a huge impact on how successful you are at
flirting but in all areas of your life.
Rich Douglas is a self improvement newsletter columnist
and the creator of *The Body Language Mastering Series"
He offers a free mini-course on how you can apply simple
body language tips and techniques that will have a significant
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