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Decoding & Interpreting Body Language"
- by Kevin Hogan -
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"Decoding & Interpreting Body Language"
Reading, decoding and interpreting body language is art
and science! Every action or micro-action takes place within a
context and in reaction to other actions that go on around the
individual. Body language has meaning that few understand and
most mis-interpret. This free article will show you some of
the basic and advanced techniques used to interpret body
language! Flirting and sexual body language is something you
can quickly spot in a woman's body language as well as a man's
in both business and personal context. Body language revealing
lying is easily identified in both business and personal
context. Nonverbal communication is the least understood and
most important facet of communication. The course from which
this article is adapted, will take you through step by step so
you will understand body language quickly and accurately.
Whether you want to learn the body language of love, dating or
closing the deal, welcome. The analysis I'm going to give you
as part of this article includes both "liking" and deception
judgments. It is fairly complex to analyze human behavior in
snapshots in time. I made judgments on the relationships of
these couples (seen below) based solely upon these photographs
and the apparent context in which they were taken.
In this article my goal for you is to become aware of a few of
the subtle nuances that you are going to begin picking up from
now on. Instead of telling you each little nuance in a boring,
clinical way, I'm going to let you have some fun and invest
just a few minutes into being a body language expert with me.
In the course, (which I designed equally with business and
personal relationships in mind) I will go into much greater
detail, but if you look closely you will learn a great deal
today about the nuances of nonverbal communication.
The question I was asked to answer about these specific body
language pictures was, "Who is the boss." "Who rules the
family, and are they likely to stay together?" Let's take a
look and see...
Photo 1 - Arnold Schwarzanegger and Maria Shriver.
Arnold has a straight back, thumb up, and focus on someone
in the audience. He is engaged with both his wife and fan
at the same time. His smile, however, is not his normal
limbic smile. It's forced as you can see by the lines
between chin and cheekbone. He is in control of the
setting but he is pushing his smile.
Maria Shriver (wife) is also
engaged with someone else while completely happily in love
and comfortable with her husband. That smile is a genuine
limbic smile and she couldn't be happier with whatever the
setting is and her husband. The hand to the heart is a
sign that she adores this man when the smile is in place
as it is. Her body posture is leaning toward Arnold and it
would be tough to do otherwise as it appears that Arnold's
left hand is making sure that she is leaning into him.
Nevertheless it is natural and she is brilliantly happy.
These are two people, very
much in love who have a different agenda for the day. The
mix of business and pleasure is obvious from the body
language point of view. Both are going well. She
appreciates the crowd more than Arnold and she appreciates
Arnold, at this moment more than he does her.
What can you learn? Go back
to Maria's smile. See those two lines that go back to her
ears? When the smile is genuine (with the vast majority of
people), you see those lines go back to people's ears and
you see two or more. The more the better.
This couple is happy and
nothing is likely to get in their way. |
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Photo 2 -
Chelsea Clinton and Boyfriend.
This is a very interesting picture of the former
President's daughter. Again, a snapshot in time. First the
boyfriend. Notice where his hands are. They aren't up in
the air, they are "holding the ceiling up." Generally when
a man does this kind of "Samson" gesture (holding/pushing
the pillars) you can read it as an intentional show of
strength (which usually actually means quite the
opposite!) Next look at his eyes. They are looking right
down at his....correct. What he is seeing is anybody's
guess but his facial expression indicates he is pleased
with it...Chelsea is
close to this young man...but not as close as you might
suspect given the depth perspective of the photo. Her eyes
do NOT attend to her boyfriend but something/someone else
off to the side. She also (in this snapshot in time) does
not actually touch her boyfriend and that is interesting.
She appears happy and yet
uncomfortable with the setting. A bit shy for this really
now outgoing girl. Perhaps because of the camera in her
face? You can't tell but the overall chemistry plays out
like this. Samson and a distant Delilah. There is no
talking going on between the bodies and although it
appears they have fun together on some levels, this looks
short-term from this moment in time forward. A full body
shot would have added a great deal to the context. Her
smile is genuine. Notice the lines... |
Photo 3 - Liz Hurley and boyfriend.
Look at the power Liz Hurley has here. Start with her body
position. She is holding him like a man holds a woman. Her
right hand cupped tight against his right side. Very
masculine. In charge. Her smile is irrelevant. It is only
for the audience. There is no sign of anything in the
smile that leads you to believe she likes what she is
looking at. It is a prefrontal cortex smile. A smooth face
with a smile is a sign of polite boredom. Notice where
Hurley chooses to put her hand for the photo? Not like
Maria Shriver with Arnold right? Correct. Her hand goes to
her hip and unconsciously gives the feelings she has deep
inside for this man away. I suspect they enjoy their
intimacy and little else.
Looking at the boyfriend you
see no happiness, not even contentment. Why is he here? I
don't know. Whatever the context, it doesn't matter. The
affection he shows for her is miniscule and forced.
These two have a short life
expectancy together based upon only this snapshot in time.
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Photo 4 - Nicky Hilton and Boyfriend.
This is a great photo and you don't need me to analyze it
all that much for you so I'll let you do this. What is his
body posture compared to hers? Is her affection level
comparable to his? Do they appear to share the same level
of desired connection? Compare facial expressions. Which
one appears adoring and admiring?
Right on all accounts. Notice
that she gives her cigarette in the right hand far more
physical attention than he does from her. She is sitting
in the shade but her face squints as if she's in the sun.
This is usually a sign of dislike or annoyance. Difficult
to tell without another snapshot in time.
Notice his right leg that
he has positioned right into her legs. She has given
nothing back. This poor man will be with another woman
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Photo 5 -
Tom Arnold and woman.
Does this photo remind you of Nicky Hilton's and to a
lesser extent Liz Hurly's? It should.
Tom Arnold is being held on a
string here. He might actually be married to this woman
now, I believe this is the case. Let's look at affection.
You work this out with me:
- Does her face indicate
she is appreciating Tom's affection?
- Does her face seem to
want to look toward Tom?
- Does she appear to be
grabbing Tom tightly and pulling her close to him?
- Does she give more
attention to the handbag at the end of the arm which
appears to have a dead weight attached to it than Tom?
The affectionate touch to
the stomach like Maria did is nowhere to be found. Tom
clearly is very fond of this lass. Her smile is a
combination of the prefrontal and limbic. Only one line
usually means that there is some "truth" in the smile but
not joy or happiness. The young ladies rear end is far too
far back there for her to be feeling intimate toward Tom
who appears that he could ignore his outdoor surroundings
at any moment and ....well yes. |
Now, there is much more that you can glean from each
photograph. I'm going to reveal to you how to determine
whether everyone you meet likes you or not. I'm going to show
you how to read with precision whether they are leaning "yes"
or "no." Like any skill, it simply take a little time
investment to learn. The payoff? Enormous. Being able to
control every situation you are in.
I'm going to let you participate in the course where we have
about 100 candid photos of celebrities in different settings.
Working with celebrity photos is the best way to learn because
these are people who are taught to control their emotions and
feelings. But just like what you have already learned to see,
the little nuances like the cigarette in Nicky's hand, the
handbag in Tom's girlfriend's hand. They tell quite a story.
The story that the unconscious is revealing, but the conscious
mind is not.
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