In one way or another, we are all plagued by a lack of
self-confidence.
Some of us have more or less than others, but for those of
us which wish to increase our levels of self-confidence, there
are three easy steps to follow. If these steps are followed,
you will gain the results you wish.
Step 1
Defining the problem.
You cannot gain self-confidence “generally”. You must know
that part of your make up that requires attention. For
self-confidence applies to certain qualities or abilities we
have or should have. You must analyze carefully that part of
you that you wish to improve. With improvement comes a natural
increase in self-confidence.
A good example is to imagine that your job requires you to
address many strange people and speak to them “cold” (without
knowing them). You are anxious and nervous about this, and
classify yourself as “shy”. Is this the case? Perhaps you just
lack self-confidence? So, you must do a self-analysis, and
determine what the problem is. If indeed you are shy, then you
will know what to correct.
Step 2
Discovery of “Little Victories”.
Once you have determined the cause of your deficiency of
self-confidence, you can apply this secret technique used by
such genius’s as Napoleon and Winston Churchill. When
something is very difficult, attempt only part of it, even the
easiest part, and get a little victory. Congratulate yourself.
Build up lots of these…and you will soon see how you approach
the difficult parts. You will soon approach with confidence.
Try it.
Step 3
Be prepared.
With the power of your investigation into the problem,
practice with solutions (through little victories) you are now
ready for the final step; preparation. Whatever it is you
needed to gain confidence for, you must now prepare. Be ready
at any moment to apply your gained experience into your
situation.
The three steps above can be applied to anything in your
life. Follow these and you follow also in the footsteps of the
great. Here is a small example. There is a well-know story of
the greatest of ancient Greek orators, Demosthenes. It is well
known that he had overcome a childhood stutter by forcing
himself to speak with pebbles in his mouth.
Demosthenes had a brilliant mind, and was a lawyer in
private practice in Greece’s golden age. He was asked many
times to become a public orator, yet he lacked the
self-confidence to speak in public. Determined, he
investigated why and what made him stutter.
Then, with a plan in mind, he put pebbles in his mouth and
tried to speak in small and simple phrases at first. He
achieved his little victories , one after the other. He became
proficient and then, as in step three, he began to prepare and
speak in public. So great was his self-confidence, that he had
the courage to challenge Alexander the Great’s rule over
Athens. His example has lived for over 2300 years, and has
been followed by countless people desiring to increase their
self-confidence.
There are other examples of great men and women who all
followed this way into history.
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